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steve veasey's avatar

This hits. It’s liberating. It’s an anthem and I’m grateful that someone called it for how it is.

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Colin Mortemore's avatar

Steve!!!! My guy — thank you so much. Hopefully more men will share stories similar to mine to show others it’s okay to feel like we do

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The Chaos Trials's avatar

Wonderful piece. I can so relate this ...all of this.

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Colin Mortemore's avatar

Thank you so much!

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Ritwik Upadhyay's avatar

Even I am someone who’s like this and people have often assumed that I’m not straight.

Like what is their definition of a man exactly??

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Colin Mortemore's avatar

I doubt they could put it into words😂

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Colin's avatar

This is a level of honesty and directly challenging what we've been told we're supposed to be! As another definitely Not Straight Colin (spelled the Right Way) Im so glad I found this! We can never fix it until we are able to directly look at and describe whats happening. For the sake of men and Women who've had to deal with repressed, shamed, angery, and isolated men for all these years.

Im always tempted to ask how did this start. I imagine some horribly traumatic scene on a hunting party that scarred and also bonded a group of men for life while separating them from the rest of the tribe, and even other men who weren't there, by the aggressive and often unexplainable behavior that comes with trauma. And society is just finally getting around to a place of being ready to deal with it

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Colin Mortemore's avatar

Colin’s unite!

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Colin's avatar

check out my stuff! Christ Like Suffering is my lore of dealing with internalized homophobia. a lot, and i mean a Lot a lot happened witu bullying in school but that took a backseat at the time and you can see the work, so far

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Colin Mortemore's avatar

I def will! Todays the perfect ‘catch up on reading’ day for me

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Colin's avatar

btws ur photography is really cool, once my art website it updated we should talk visual art 🎨

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maya 🌙's avatar

You seem like a pretty hozier-coded guy and I mean that in the best way possible

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Colin Mortemore's avatar

I … 🫵 I’ll take it. I love the mountains

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Nick Neve's avatar

Raw, and incredible share. Really appreciate the vulnerability man. I can relate to a lot you’ve shared here, comforting to know we’re not alone in our crazy experiences as men

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Colin Mortemore's avatar

Thank you Nick I really appreciate it

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Karina Pawlak's avatar

That is a lot of growth. Thank you for sharing. *followed the aesthetic Insta

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Colin Mortemore's avatar

Thank you so much Karina!

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Janu's avatar

I have so much respect for you now Colin. Wow seriously, I've never loved something that came from a guy until I read yours. 🫶🏾 And you're so funny 😭

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Colin Mortemore's avatar

Janu!!!!! THANK YOU so much. Your words mean a lot. I appreciate this friend

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Shay B. Keats's avatar

The way you write is so funny to me. I’m giggling kicking my feet the whole time.

What a great piece and astute exploration of your life experiences and identity!!! I have a best friend I met in high school who went through VERY similar things in school because of his body language and his closeness with girl pals. And I myself have always struggled to think of myself as “feminine”, which is sort of a flip side of your whole piece.

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Colin Mortemore's avatar

🙂‍↕️🙂‍↔️that feels like a hug. Thank you so much Shay — I’m glad I’m not the only one who feels this way and hopefully can allow other people to tell their story.

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Grape Soda's avatar

Very interesting. My guess is that in more sexist times, males ironically had greater latitude of masculine expression. Poetry, fashion, music, cooking, design… many things now coded feminine would not have been seen that way at all. (No advocacy here, just an observation)

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Colin Mortemore's avatar

Oh for sure — masculinity has changed so dramatically over the years. Read the history about high heels and makeup! They were male aristocracy things!!

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the despite system's avatar

Super proud of you, Colin. I’m glad to know you. 🫶🏻

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Colin Mortemore's avatar

Thanks brothaaaaaaa

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Nur Nadar's avatar

I haven’t read this yet but I will. Just wanted to say I also hate when it’s just about my monster dong 😕

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Colin Mortemore's avatar

Me too :/ I much more than that

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Pete McCutchen's avatar

You talk as if the most troglodyte notions of gender segregation are dominant in the US. In the real world, we live in an advanced Western society, and both men and women are allowed a range of different personal styles and preferences. Nor does an aesthetic sensibility necessarily code as feminine -- great artists, architects, composers and chefs are men.

What is annoying, and what seems feminine in an unattractive way, is the lengthy navel-gazing about your emotions and feelings. You just go on and on about your feelz.

Plus, the skin care routine. That is definitely not normal.

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Colin Mortemore's avatar

Thanks Pete🫶

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name's avatar

The masculine/feminine list at the end is so dizzyingly sexist & perpetuates the exact bullshit binary thinking that you whine-ily rail against in your post that I actually had to double take and make sure I wasn't reading another ironic list. It's actually making me laugh at how you think you're 'different' in some transcendent, post-gendered way, when in fact you're very likely just affectatious and meek,

Like seriously, did you read the list you wrote? Cleaning and cooking and hygiene and 'looking damn FINE!!' (surprised you didnt tack on 'slay kween' and add the painted nail emoji tbh) is in the feminine category, and beer and videogames is in the masculine? I actually feel bad for you, because you're pushing thirty and have the balls to post this dumb shit. Like LMfao skincare and jeweley? Are you joking?

The audacity of this corny, and can i say, GAY AS SHIT, post astounds me.

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Colin Mortemore's avatar

Awh! So happy I could waste your time anonymous random person! Glad you’re so pressed about a random persons story!!!! Hope you have some cream from the hemroids you’re likely experiencing.

Blessings or whatever

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name's avatar

youre an idiot 😂😂 good luck in life boyo, you need it

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Colin Mortemore's avatar

I made you laugh 🫵 you think I’m funny 🫵

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gg plido's avatar

i love this

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Colin Mortemore's avatar

Appreciate this GG!

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Sectionalism Archive's avatar

1. You don’t need a skincare routine if you’re eating healthy. Or you can just take acutane and acne goes away forever.

2. Biphobia is justified, most bisexual men are closeted pederasts

3. Effeminate men who are not gay are hated because among men they are subversive and among women they are subject to justified suspicion that it is all an act to get pussy

You write like a woman so much that the fact that you’re not a flaming homosexual made me also sort of instinctively suspect that this is all an elaborate act to get pussy.

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Colin Mortemore's avatar

🫵🤨 you’re screaming and it’s bed time. Go tuck yourself in.

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Sectionalism Archive's avatar

I’m actually surprised that you get confused as homosexual. Judging by your profile picture I’d probably assume you were a FtM Transgender

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Colin Mortemore's avatar

I’m proud of you for knowing such big words!! Good job little buddy! Your reading comprehension might need some work though. So I’m gonna put you in timeout though, sit there and think about what you did🫵

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Sectionalism Archive's avatar

Reading comprehension is g-loaded and mostly genetic. It’s over for shape rotators like me, there’s no helping us

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